Breakable or Unbreakable?

How many times do we allow past relationships to dictate our present one? All the time. Will we ever break the cycle? That’s a really good question. I know we’ve all heard the saying or the phrase “hurt people, hurt people.” I asked a few friends, both male and female, did they believe it to be a true statement. One person said yes, they believe it to an extent. That it depends on the level of hurt that particular person endured in the past. Another said, yes, but they don’t believe that it’s intentional. What do you believe?

I believe that hurt people hurt people. Everyone has been in what they consider to be a “not so good” to them relationship. I truly believe that if you’re accustomed to dysfunctional relationships that you tend to bring some of that dysfunctionalism to those relationships you have after that. Whether intentional or unintentional it happens and it’s not fair to the individual on the receiving end. “I believe a person that has been hurt in a relationship situation should take some time to themselves and recover from the wounds that they have received before jumping into something brand new and tainting that situation from the start because of bitterness and issues that they have not overcome yet.”

(Laughing to myself) It’s amazing how many people do the time for somebody else’s crime. How many men walk on eggshells because of what “he” did to her or how many women hold their tongues for fear of saying what “she” said to him. The hurt that a person experiences hinders them or causes them to place a guard around their heart, which is understandable, but you can’t sentence a person who had no involvement in the crime. Not to mention, the walls you've placed in between you and the people whom have hurt you don't as much block them out as it does you in. (MMMPPP!)

A lot of the time people allow the thoughts of “what if” to enter their minds and cause them to think that maybe what they’re experiencing or have isn’t the real thing. “The problem with most of us is that we say things like what if this doesn’t work or what is Plan B, which causes us to sometimes spend more time being concerned with the “what if” and “Plan B” and not focusing hard enough on how to make “Plan A” work." You're focused so much on what you wanna be that you neglect what you are which turns your "road not taken" into "two roads diverged." Then we allow ourselves to miss out on good things and the chance for happiness. How are you ever going to enjoy your “sunshine on a cloudy day” if you won’t move from behind the cloud? Sometimes hurt is the pain of not knowing what to do to heal the hurt and make a difference. Are you willing to take two steps forward only to take ten steps back?

So, my question is this. If hurt people hurt people. What happens to the people they hurt?